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The Sacred Circle A Safe Haven for women on the Journey to Divorce and Beyond Message Information Embrace being a Woman Breaking down the Stereotype It’s all about You Legal Children Support
IT’S ALL ABOUT YOU Divorce is a crisis and a major life change which has an enormous impact on your sense of self- identity, and self- worth. You and your children are the most important thing right now. Focusing on yourself, finding yourself, and loving yourself might seem impossible to do right now but if you feel unmotivated and dead inside it will have just as much affect on your child as it will on you. This is going to be one of your greatest challenges but it will also be your greatest achievement. Imagine the feeling, years from now, when you can laugh in your ex- spouses face (silently of course) because you were able to pick yourself up and achieve happiness and success on your own. Many divorce websites begin the Life after Divorce process by telling you to get out of denial and give you tasks to complete so your able to move forward. Yes, these websites offer fantastic information on what to do physically, but they miss the most important step of all, getting to know yourself and accepting who you find. You are a treasure. There is no one else on this planet that is like you so you can not be replaced. Remember, you have one life to live and its YOURS. ▪ Lets focus on your self: Self Contemplation How do you think about yourself? What do you look in the mirror everyday and automatically think?
First, you will need to get out of bed. Yes, this is possible. Everyday is a new day. You can not do anything about the past so release it and stop dwelling on it. God lets the sun come up each morning so you can rejoice and achieve greatness because that’s all he wants for you. Even though some mornings will be difficult and you might feel like there is no point in getting out of bed, remember your children, remember the people that love you and believe in you, and remember the feeling of accomplishment. Look in that mirror and smile. Even if you feel there is nothing to smile about, make yourself! Then be nice to yourself. Give yourself compliments. Turn that frown upside down and DON’T say one thing negative. Identities can be one of the following two: 1. Ascribed: Someone gives an identity to you. 2. Salien: Avow your identity. What are your lenses? How do you view yourself? - A woman? A mother? A sister? A daughter? A friend? What is each identity and what do you look at? Class, Gender, Religion, Age, Race, Sexual Orientation, Physical Ability |
